“He came to his own, and his own people did not receive him.” (John 1:11, ESV)
Unexpected Rejection, an Unexpected Solution
Like Jesus, I recently went to my own and they did not receive me. It was devastating. I was so hurt and discouraged by the rejection. I cried. The sadness was deep-seated and seemed to take over my mind. All I could think about was how to change the circumstances. What I wanted was to change the other person. Of course, I couldn’t change things.
Knowing that this problem needed the attention of someone bigger, stronger, smarter, and saner than me, I prayed. I asked the Lord why this was happening. I asked Him to fix the other person. I asked Him to take away my pain. He answered me and helped me but not in the way I expected.
The Lord reminded me that rejection is a universal malady caused by the human condition called sin. He also reminded me that I am not alone in suffering from rejection. The Lord pointed out something else. He reminded me that my sin and selfishness had caused others to feel rejected. As I thought about this, I was grieved.
We Reject God at Times
Then I realized that my sin was more grievous than I had first realized. I haven’t only rejected other sinful men. In fact, I have rejected God’s overtures of love and affection. There have been times that He has come to me, and I have rejected Him. “He came to his own, and his own people did not receive him” John 1:11. I was one of His own that did not receive Him.
The Almighty God wants to spend time with me. He has given me everything, I have life because of Him. All that I have, and all that I am are because of Him. How could I reject Him?
I was very upset with the person that rejected me. I had given to them sacrificially. I had put aside my interests for theirs. There were many times I provided what they needed for life. When I realized that I had grieved the Lord in the same way that my offender had hurt me, I knew I needed to change.
We Need to Change
Changing what I can is my responsibility. I cannot solve the rejection that I am suffering through right now. I can use what I am learning from the situation to be a catalyst to change my treatment of others. I also want to change my response to Lord of Life who comes to me desiring a relationship. I want to be available and responsive to Him when He reaches out to me. For in this there is great reward.
“Those whom I love, I reprove and discipline, so be zealous and repent. Behold, I stand at the door and knock. If anyone hears my voice and opens the door, I will come in to him and eat with him, and he with me. The one who conquers, I will grant him to sit with me on my throne, as I also conquered and sat down with my Father on his throne.” (Revelation 3:19–21, ESV)