“He heals the brokenhearted and bandages up their wounds.” Psalm 147:3 (NLT)
Seeing someone you care about hurting is hard to watch. An important thing to know is that you can help. Here are three steps to go about doing that.
Step 1: Reaching out
Instead of thinking that other people might help or are already helping, just do it yourself! Each person will be different in the ways you reach out, so take the time to be active in what you see, and reach out to them. Do things such as writing them a letter or emailing, calling or text messaging them. If possible, try to meet them in person such as setting a date to meet for coffee.
Step 2: Give Attention
Once you have gotten ahold of the person, give them your full attention. Let them talk, while you try to listen with an open heart and caring mindset. But its not all about just listening… respond when needed and give them feedback. Show them that you care and God cares even more. Revert back to God’s word to help them to see that he is always working and waiting for their prayers. Give them some scriptural motivation. Here are some scriptures they can reflect on:
“Do not be afraid or discouraged, for the Lord will personally go ahead of you. He will be with you; he will neither fail you nor abandon you.” Deuteronomy 31:8 (NLT)
“The Lord helps the fallen and lifts those bent beneath their loads.” Psalm 145:14-20 (NLT)
“He gives power to the weak and strength to the powerless.” Isaiah 40:29 (NLT)
“Trust in the Lord with all your heart; do not depend on your own understanding.” Proverbs 3:5 (NLT)
Step 3: The Follow Up
Keep in contact. I know everyone gets caught up in life and we forget to keep in touch but, this is the most important step that is commonly unused. In my personal experience, I found that my friends were always there for me in the first few days of my distress, but soon after forgot what had happened to me. I always wished they would reach out again for weeks afterward, but they never did. Your loved ones that need help most likely won’t reach out to you again to remind you what just happened a few weeks ago. It is up to you to keep up the contact.
Some simple ways to do so are to ask them how they are doing or how you can pray for them. Another way is send them a quick text message or email of something you found inspiring or funny to brighten up their day and put the conversation back into motion. And always remember that God is present and working nonstop in all of our lives.