Don’t just put love in your heart; put them in your calendar.
Love is a four letter word, and it is spelled T-I-M-E.
Enough of sentimental or emotional love. Love needs to be felt. There is no such thing as loving in absence. If it’s not there, it simply means it does not exist.
I know of many couples who still love each other but end up separating simply because they don’t have time for each other anymore.
As a pastor and teacher, I teach my flock and my students to understand and recognize ‘’seasons’’ in their life and that of other people. My point is that we need to give each other space and not try to squeeze people according to our mold or expectations.
Respect the seasons.
But I also want to remind us that whatever season we are going through in our lives, our top two priorities remain the same.
These are God and family.
You cannot excuse your way not to spend time with God or to neglect your family because of ‘’seasons.’’
God is first and family second. Always.
No ifs and buts about it.
That’s where discipline and intentionality comes in.
Whatever is happening in my life, I will always prioritize two things:
- My daily devotion with God, and
- Spending at least four nights a week having dinner together with my family.
One happens in the morning while the other at night. The bookends of my life.
When I guard these two with all diligence, I can handle anything that comes or happens in between.
A wise mentor once counseled me, ‘’No amount of success in ministry (or anything else for that matter) can compensate for the failure of a home.’’
I will not sacrifice anything, much less my family, on the altar of anything else.
There are a million and one things that need to be done. Another person to help; another task to accomplish.
But there’s also a family that needs time and attention.
A family that desperately needs love.
So if you will excuse me, I’m going home.