Unfortunately, sometimes men are like those cows. There may come a time within your marriage when things seems to fizzle out. The spark is gone. The romanticism is non-existent. The stomach butterflies and sweaty hand holding days of dating have long passed. For some men (and women), this is when they find themselves contemplating cheating. They tend to forget what they have, who they have, and the ramifications of adultery. Of course, sin never comes to us as unappealing, or we wouldn’t fall prey to the desire of our flesh and temptations.
As the Apostle James noted, “For if anyone is a hearer of the word and not a doer, he is like a man who looks intently at his natural face in a mirror. For he looks at himself and goes away and at once forgets what he was like” (James 1:23-24).
The one who is contemplating cheating, seeking that new spark, is like the man who looks into the mirror; he sees the need to comb his hair, brush his yellow teeth, or wash the dirt off of his face, and yet walks away content to leave it as it is—he forgets what he looks like. Likewise, the Word of God warns us and yet we seldom heed the warning. The Scriptures provide some sound advice, “For by means of a harlot, a man is reduced to a crust of bread; and an adulteress will prey upon his precious life” (Proverbs 6:26, NKJV). It is my opinion that men do not stumble upon adultery, they run to it with open arms. Perhaps it begins slowly, a wink across cubicles, a polite smile, sharing an elevator at the office, a hand on a shoulder when laughing, connecting over lunch, and then an innocent flirt, but as the writer of Proverbs noted, a woman can reduce a man to a piece of bread. Has that ever happened to you? Sure it has, that’s how you got married!
It doesn’t take much to stroke the male ego or to make a man feel secure, strong, and confident—some women know exactly how to do it. Now, this doesn’t mean women are evil, sharing an elevator is wrong, or even smiling at women; no, the point was to show that no one “falls” into sin, or it just “happens.” There is an intentional path, warnings, and chances to stop following the passions of the flesh. The grass is not greener, and while it may seem more plush, over time you’ll eventually feel the same way about that grass. The wise man knows that grass which stays greener and fuller, grows healthier when he applies fertilizer during the right seasons, manicures it, waters it, and reduces people from walking on it. Likewise, if you honor your marriage vows, invest in your wife, don’t walk on her, but encourage her and pray for her, she’ll always be the love of your life.