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Helping Others Grieve

By Micca Campbell • November 4, 2016

When I lost my spouse, people said strange things to me such as. “You’re young. You’ll marry again.” I know they meant well but their words brought no comfort. At the time, I wasn’t thinking of re-marrying. I wanted the marriage I already had.

We often say to the woman who lost her baby during pregnancy, “You can try again.” Yet, she longs for the child she’ll never hold. We mean well by offering a future perspective, but what she really needs is for us to meet her in her pain.

Here’s what we need to know about someone in pain:

  1. The goal isn’t to make the person feel better. It’s to be there while she feels the worst.
  2. Grief is a journey to be taken. Experienced. Unpacked. Allow her to go through the process that will bring ultimate healing. We can’t speed up the process. Each person will journey through grief at her own pace.

Here are some ways we can respond to grief:

  1. Model Jesus. Jesus didn’t try and talk Mary and Martha out of their grief when Lazarus died. He didn’t offer a better perspective of the situation. No. He cried. The best thing we can do is cry with the her over her loss.
  2. Instead of asking what she needs, look for signs. People in pain don’t know how to articulate their needs but they will lead you in ministering to them if you watch for what they need.

Many run from the heartache of others. Instead, we should step into their grief, listen, cry, and help remove distractions that might keep her from her journey from pain to peace.

Grief is a work. It’s often the difficult road we travel that leads us to our God-given destination.

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Micca Campbell

About Micca Campbell

Micca Campbell is a national conference speaker with Proverbs31 Ministries, a Bible-teacher, and a wife and mother of three. Micca’s passion is for women to fear less and live more abundantly in Christ. She is the author of An Untroubled Heart: Finding A Faith Stronger Than All My Fears. Micca has also contributed to several books including, Real-Life Devotional Bible for Women, Encouragement for Today, God’s Purpose For Every Woman, For the Write Reason, and The Reason We Speak. Currently, Micca is working on her next book about experiencing the power of the Holy Spirit in your everyday life.

Micca has also been interviewed in magazine articles, blogs, radio, and television appearances. In November of 2014, Micca appeared on the cover of Today’s Christian Living Magazine. In 2004, Parentlife Magazine named her “Mother of the Year,” an honor her children still find humorous to this day.

She also knows what it is to hurt deeply. After a house fire claimed the life of her husband, Micca found herself alone, a new mother, and a widow at the age of 21. Having faced every woman’s greatest fear, Micca found ultimate peace by placing her cares in the care of God. Her story breaths new hope into every hurting heart. Micca resides in Nashville, TN with her husband and their three children.

She would love to connect with you at www.miccacampbell.com, www.facebook.com/miccacampbell, or www.twitter.com/miccacampbell.

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