I have been writing devotionals and encouraging words for a few years now. I can express myself better through written words, rather than with spoken words. The reason for that being, many times in the long ago past, I have been told to ‘just keep your mouth closed’ – the listener did not want to hear my words. So, it became a habit; one I still battle with, even though I am now in a safe and good place.
Such an attack can be devastating to a person. In a single verbal swoop, you are demeaned and negated. Emotionally, your self-worth and confidence take a dive. You feel unimportant and unnecessary.
Life and wrong choices can imprison us – sometimes, literally, and it is in such a dark place that we ‘hit the bottom of the barrel’ – physically, emotionally and spiritually. If we believe in God, we question Him and what He is allowing to happen to us.
If we are not believers, then we suffer even deeper despair, as there is nothing; absolutely nothing, for us to turn to, or to hold on to. Okay, so God does not give us what we want, when we want it, nor how we want it, but it might be a good idea if you think about your expectations of Him.
Perhaps, God is not giving you what you want because He knows it is not right for you.
Maybe, in giving you what you pray for, it will take you to a place of harm, where the people you meet will be a bad influence. They could lead you into a compromising lifestyle from which there will be no return. It could be a road of immorality or law-breaking. Such circumstances will cause you to become hard-hearted, which in turn, will further demoralize your already hurting spirit.
It can be easy to slide. There could be friends, who are not true friends or a business partner who takes, rather than gives. Maybe a wonderful warm relationship sours, once a commitment is made. There are numerous disappointments in life. Some of us will work our way through the difficulties, while some will crumble – never again, to function adequately.
Whatever your situation might be, there is great comfort to be found in God’s Word – the Bible. In it, you will discover a blueprint for the right way to live. Once there, you can be assured that your choices and decisions will improve too, because your friends will be God-loving, God-living people, who support you and care for you, no matter what you have become.
1 Corinthians 13:4-8a states clearly how a God-led person will be recognized. They will love you unconditionally; they will be kind and not envious; they will not boast about themselves or their achievements; they will not be easily provoked (will not become angry easily); they will not laugh at your disappointments, nor will they wish you harm. They will, instead, be honest (truthful) and compassionate. They will not try to destroy you. They will listen and never give up on you.
These principles for right-living, we can find in God’s Bible; there is no magic formula at play, just honest-to-goodness living and loving; and when we live this way, we cannot help but grow stronger ourselves, and will also certainly encourage others to want to live in the same manner.
When God is in control of all that we do – we will choose wisely; because we prefer to live His Way and not follow our own.